Therapy for couples who want to feel close again

couples therapy

Most couples reach out because they’re stuck, whether in disconnection, in repetitive conflict, or in dead-end conversations. You might love each other deeply and still feel like roommates. You may say you need help communicating, but what’s likely happening is that something tender keeps getting missed.

In my couples therapy practice, I help create a space where you can slow down, reflect, and stay curious with each other even in difficult moments. Rather than focusing on surface-level tools, we explore what’s underneath the patterns keeping you apart.

Often, beneath frustration or shutdown are deeper fears:

  • Fear of not being enough

  • Fear of being too much

  • Fear of losing connection

  • Fear of losing yourself

When those fears can be named and validated, something shifts. Defensiveness softens. Reachability returns. Intimacy becomes possible again.

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Fees & Logistics

I offer in-person couples therapy weekly or biweekly, Monday through Friday during daytime hours. Sessions are 55 minutes. Extended 90-minute sessions are available by request.

My rate is $175 per session, and $260 for extended sessions.

To allow us more flexibility, privacy, and depth in our work, I don’t accept insurance for couples therapy. I do provide superbills for potential out-of-network reimbursement, and I hold a limited number of sliding-scale spots for those who need it.

How I work

My work is grounded in Attachment Theory and informed by Collaborative Language Systems Theory, which centers us as relational beings shaped through our interactions and connections with other people, places, narratives, and identities. Therapy becomes a shared process of meaning-making, where you and your partner explore your stories, patterns, and longings to allow new ways of seeing each other.

Sessions are experiential. We won’t just talk about change, we’ll practice embodying it in the room together. I’ll help you:

  • Notice patterns as they unfold

  • Slow down reactive moments in real time

  • Stay with difficult emotions without escalating or shutting down

  • Speak hard truths with respect and clarity

  • Turn toward each other instead of away

  • Strengthen connection so closeness feels possible again

I’ll gently challenge you to be candid and curious even when it’s uncomfortable. This work isn’t easy, but it’s how intimacy can emerge again.

My approach is collaborative and depth-oriented. I don’t come in with a script, quick fixes, or preconceived ideas of who you are. Instead, I listen deeply, honor you as the expert of your lived experience, and co-create a process with you based on who you are and what your relationship needs.

Why this work matters

When connection erodes, it affects everything: our sense of safety, our mental and emotional wellbeing, our physical health, and our ability to be present in the rest of our lives.

Instead of asking whether things are bad enough to seek help, consider:

What could become possible if we gave attention and care to this part of our life?

At Tending Together, I help couples move from guarded distance toward deeper understanding and emotional availability — not by offering quick fixes, but by creating the conditions where trust, intimacy, and adaptability can take root.

Our relationships don’t thrive by default, especially in a world that fractures our attention.

  • Many couples reach out when they feel stuck — in repetitive arguments, emotional distance, or conversations that escalate or shut down. Often, partners still care deeply about each other but can’t seem to find their way back to connection.

    Couples therapy offers a space to slow down, understand what’s happening underneath these patterns, and practice new ways of relating. It’s not only for moments of crisis. Many couples come to therapy because they want to strengthen their relationship before things deteriorate further.

  • My work is collaborative, attachment-focused, and informed by Collaborative Language Systems Theory. I see therapy as a shared process where we explore your relationship patterns together rather than applying a predetermined set of techniques.

    We pay attention to what’s happening in real time between you — emotionally, relationally, and in your nervous systems. By slowing down these moments, we can uncover the deeper fears, hurts, and longings that often sit beneath conflict.

    This process helps couples move from reactive patterns toward greater emotional reachability, honesty, and connection.

  • It’s common for one partner to feel unsure about starting therapy. What matters most is a shared willingness to show up before deciding it isn't working.

    If one partner isn’t willing to attend therapy, individual sessions can sometimes be a helpful place to begin exploring your own patterns and relationship dynamics.

    You’re welcome to reach out and we can talk about what might feel manageable as a first step.

  • Every relationship is different. Many couples begin to experience meaningful shifts within a few sessions, and it can take months to really internalize these changes outside of therapy. The length of therapy depends on your goals, evolving needs, and your particular set of relational and life circumstances.

    Most couples start with weekly sessions so we can build traction and better understand the patterns at play. Over time, sessions may shift to a biweekly rhythm depending on your needs and sense of progress.

    When you begin to feel ready to transition out of therapy, we’ll usually spend 1-3 sessions wrapping up our work together to facilitate that change.

  • I currently offer in-person sessions only. I’ve found that working together face-to-face allows for a deeper level of presence and connection, which is especially important in couples work.

    If you’re sick or traveling within North Carolina, we can arrange for a virtual session to accommodate these circumstances.

  • I do not accept insurance for couples therapy. I am considered an out-of-network provider, and I can provide a superbill upon request for potential reimbursement if you have out-of-network benefits.

    I am in-network with BCBS and Aetna for individual therapy only.

  • Couples come to therapy for many reasons, including:

    • Communication breakdowns

    • Repetitive conflict cycles

    • Emotional or physical intimacy challenges

    • Feeling more like roommates than partners

    • Navigating major life transitions

    • Rebuilding after breaches of trust

    • Opening a relationship or exploring non-monogamy

    My focus is helping couples understand the relational patterns beneath these struggles so new ways of connecting become possible.

  • Many couples arrive unsure about the future of the relationship. Therapy can provide a thoughtful space to explore what each of you wants and needs moving forward.

    While my primary focus is helping couples renew a sense of closeness, I also support partners navigating uncoupling with honesty, clarity, and care.

  • You can reach out directly on my website’s “Book an Appointment” page to schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation. This initial conversation gives us a chance to talk about what’s bringing you in, answer any questions you have, and see whether working together feels like a good fit.

Frequently Asked Questions

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