Therapy for couples who still LOVE each other, but feel far apart.
Helping you soften your walls, risk honesty, and find your way back to closeness.
If you’re here, you likely care deeply about your relationship, but something feels off. Conversations escalate or stall out. You feel distant, guarded, or stuck in the same patterns no matter how hard you try. You might say you “just need help communicating,” but underneath there’s a deeper longing to feel seen, understood, and close to each other again.
You might be here because:
You love each other, but hard conversations escalate or shut down
One of you reaches while another pulls away
You feel more like roommates or co-managers than partners
You keep having the same fight, even when you’re trying not to
Old hurts keep resurfacing, making it hard to hear each other
Sexual or emotional intimacy feels strained, distant, or overwhelming
A transition, like opening up your relationship or redefining it, has brought up more than you expected
You want closeness, but aren’t sure how to get there
If any of this feels familiar, you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. These are common patterns in relationships where connection still matters deeply. In therapy, we slow down the patterns that keep you guarded, uncover the deeper wounds beneath conflict, and create the space to speak candidly and feel heard so you can move from distance toward closeness, even in high-stakes moments.
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What’s happening beneath the surface
Most couples come to therapy saying they need help communicating. What we usually discover together is that communication breaks down when it no longer feels safe or possible to truly reach one another.
Beneath arguments, shutdown, or avoidance are often deeper fears: fears of not being enough, of losing someone you love, or of being overwhelmed to the point of losing yourself. These fears are protected in ways that make sense, but over time they create distance, misunderstanding, and pain.
In our work together, we slow these patterns down so you can see what’s underneath them. When the deeper emotions and needs are named and understood, new ways of relating become possible that allow for honesty, accountability, and real intimacy.
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How couples therapy with me worksI help couples move from guarded distance to emotional reachability — so you can get through to each other even in moments that typically lead to shutdown, defensiveness, or escalation.
In sessions, we will:
Slow down the moments that often spiral, so you can see what's actually happening beneath them
Help you turn toward each other, not just toward me
Name the deeper hurts that are driving the conflict, not just the conflict itself
Practice saying hard things in ways your partner can actually hear
Create enough safety that reaching for each other begins to feel possible again
I'm not here to take sides or keep score. I'm here to help you see the patterns you've gotten caught in, understand what's driving them, and create enough safety that real connection becomes possible again.
Who I Work Best With
I work best with couples who:
Still care deeply about one another, even if you feel far apart
Are willing to look at your own patterns, not just your partner’s
Want depth and lasting change, not just surface-level tools
Are open to slowing down and exploring what’s underneath conflict
Are interested in meaningful, longer-term growth rather than a quick fix
Are choosing the relationship and want support strengthening it
You don’t need to have everything figured out before starting therapy. A shared willingness to show up candidly and imperfectly is enough.
Transitions and Uncoupling
Sometimes, therapy clarifies that the most aligned path forward is separation. If that becomes the direction, I also support couples through thoughtful, intentional uncoupling, which can help to reduce harm, slow reactive decisions, and navigate the process with care and integrity.
About Me
I’m Arielle, a licensed marriage and family therapist. I bring a steady, grounded presence to couples work and a deep respect for the courage it takes to say hard things out loud. I don’t shy away from intensity, and I won’t rush you past it.
My approach is attachment-focused and informed by somatic awareness. That means we pay attention not only to what’s said, but to what’s happening underneath in your emotions, your relationship patterns, and your nervous systems.
When the space feels safe enough, vulnerability becomes possible. And when vulnerability becomes possible, love that’s been blocked becomes reachable.
Logistics & Fees
I offer in-person couples therapy weekly or biweekly, Monday through Friday during daytime hours. Sessions are 55 minutes. Extended 90-minute sessions are available by request.
My rate is $175 per session, and $260 for extended sessions.
I work primarily with couples and hold a small number of spaces for individuals navigating relationship concerns.
I don't work with insurance for couples therapy. This allows us more flexibility, privacy, and depth in the work. I provide superbills for potential out-of-network reimbursement, and I hold a limited number of sliding-scale spots for those who need it.
Let’s Work Together
Choosing your relationship, again, on purpose, is one of the most courageous things you can do. I'd love to support you in that journey.
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